My Heart is Still


A beautiful poem for those who long to serve. The poet is, to me, unknown.

I longed to walk along an easy road,
And leave behind the dull routine of home,
Thinking in other fields to serve my God;
But Jesus said, “My time has not yet come.”

I longed to sow the seed in other soil,
To be unshackled in the work, and free,
To join with other laborers in their toil;
But Jesus said, “It’s not My choice for thee.”

I longed to leave the desert, and be led
To work where souls were sunk in sin and shame,
That I might win them; but the Master said,
“I have not called you, publish here My name.”

I longed to fight the battles of my King,
Lift high His standards in the thickest strife;
But my great Captain had me wait and sing
Songs of His conquests in my quiet life.

I longed to leave the hard and difficult sphere,
Where all alone I seemed to stand and wait,
To feel I had some human helper near,
But Jesus had me guard one lonely gate.

I longed to leave the common daily toil,
Where no one seemed to understand or care;
But Jesus said, “I choose for you this soil,
That you might raise for Me some blossoms rare.”

And now I have no longing but to do
At home, or far away, His blessed will,
To work amid the many or the few;
Thus, “choosing not to choose,” my heart is still.



WHY WE BELIEVE CHILDREN WHO DIE GO TO HEAVEN By R. Albert Mohler, Jr. and Daniel L. Akin


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Few things in life are more tragic and heartbreaking than the death of a baby or small child. For parents, the grief can be overwhelming. For the minister, to stand over a small, white casket and provide comfort and support seems to ask for more than he can deliver.

Many console themselves with the thought that at least the child is now in a better place. Some believe small children who die become angels. They are certain these precious little ones are in heaven with God.

However, it is important for us both to ask and answer some important questions if we can. Do those who die in infancy go to heaven? How do we know? What evidence is there to support such a conclusion? Sentimentalism and emotional hopes and wants are not sufficient for those who live under the authority of the Word of God. We must, if possible, find out what God has said.

It is interesting to discover that the Church has not been of one mind on this issue. In fact, the early and medieval Church was anything but united. Some Church Fathers remained silent on the issue. Ambrose said unbaptized infants were not admitted to heaven, but have immunity from the pains of hell. Augustine basically affirmed the damnation of all unbaptized infants, but taught they would receive the mildest punishment of all. Gregory of Nyssa offered that infants who die immediately mature and are given the opportunity to trust Christ. Calvin affirmed the certain election of some infants to salvation and was open to the possibility that all infants who die are saved. He said, “Christ receives not only those who, moved by holy desire and faith, freely approach unto Him, but those who are not yet of age to know how much they need His grace.” Zwingli, B.B. Warfield and Charles Hodge all taught that God saves all who die in infancy. This perspective has basically become the dominant view of the Church in the 20th century.

Yet, a popular evangelical theologian chided Billy Graham when at the Oklahoma City memorial service he said, “Someday there will be a glorious reunion with those who have died and gone to heaven before us, and that includes all those innocent children that are lost. They’re not lost from God because any child that young is automatically in heaven and in God’s arms.” The theologian scolded Dr. Graham for offering what he called “. . . a new gospel: justification by youth alone.”

It is our conviction that there are good reasons biblically and theologically for believing that God saves all who die who do not reach a stage of moral understanding and accountability. It is readily admitted that Scripture does not speak to this issue directly, yet there is evidence that can be gleaned that would lead us to affirm on biblical grounds that God receives into heaven all who have died in infancy. Some evidence is stronger than others, but cumulatively they marshall strong support for infant salvation. We will note six of them.

First, the grace, goodness and mercy of God would support the position that God saves all infants who die. This is the strongest argument and perhaps the decisive one. God is love (1 John 4:8) and desires that all be saved (1 Timothy 2:4). God is love and His concern for children is evident in Matthew 18:14 where Jesus says, “Your Father in heaven is not willing that any of these little ones should be lost.” People go to hell because they choose in willful rebellion and unbelief to reject God and His grace. Children are incapable of this kind of conscious rejection of God. Where such rebellion and willful disobedience is absent, God is gracious to receive.

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Taking a Stand for Modesty


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“yes, girls, it’s our fault if we strike the match to ignite our thoughts with lust, but you don’t have to pile up twigs at our feet and douse them in gasoline.” J. D. Greear 

Modesty is an attitude of the heart. When a woman loves the Lord most of all, she will rejoice in her ability to serve her brothers in the church by clothing herself in ways that don’t lay a stumbling block at their feet. When a woman loves herself most of all, she won’t.

There are times that a woman may want to serve the Lord but still fail to dress modestly. Perhaps she wasn’t ever taught how visual guys are, maybe she doesn’t think of herself as having any physical assets, maybe she is still growing spiritually. If her heart is right, she can be taught. She’ll welcome the teaching.

It’s an uncomfortable subject. Most preachers don’t want to get up in the pulpit and address modesty. I can understand why they don’t but I also think they ought to reconsider. Teaching on modesty can be done gently while still honoring the Lord’s truth. Many ladies no longer try to be an example to the younger women and girls and/or don’t think they have it in them to be a Titus 2 woman. If you are one who haven’t wanted to be an example, please examine your own heart. Is your heart right with God? Are your own clothes modest? If not, talk to the Lord about it, please. If they are, are you too busy? Too tired? Were you untaught yourself? If you are a godly lady, you’ve got something to teach and there are younger women who desperately need and even want your guidance. I was one who desperately sought for guidance when I was younger. No one ever stepped up to the plate though I did hear every single excuse imaginable why they didn’t have the time to invest in me. Don’t be one who does that to someone else.

Modesty needs to be addressed in our churches. For far too long, those in leadership in our churches have either ignored the subject of modesty or been legalistic about it. Both are extremes. Both are wrong. Let’s start with you and with me. Let’s examine our own hearts, minds and motives. Do we love the Lord? Do we really really love Him or are we loving ourselves more? Do our clothes reflect our love of Him? (Guys, this is for you too. Men can be immodest just as easily as the ladies can.) Are our clothes too costly? Flashy? Tight? Sheer? Too short or low cut? Are we trying to draw attention to ourselves? Are our main efforts on improving ourselves focused inward or outward? Let’s examine ourselves in light of Scripture and make sure we’re right. Then let’s step up and honor the Lord by taking a stand for modesty.



He Giveth More Grace by Annie J. Flint


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He giveth more grace when the burdens grow greater,
He sendeth more strength when the labors increase;
To added affliction He addeth His mercy;
To multiplied trials, His multiplied peace.

When we have exhausted our store of endurance,
When our strength has failed ere the day is half done,
When we reach the end of our hoarded resources,
Our Father’s full giving is only begun.

Fear not that thy need shall exceed His provision,
Our God ever yearns His resources to share;
Lean hard on the arm everlasting, availing;
The Father both thee and thy load will upbear.

His love has no limit; His grace has no measure.
His pow’r has no boundary known unto men;
For out of His infinite riches in Jesus,
He giveth, and giveth, and giveth again!

Some days I long for God…

A Twisted Crown of Thorns ®

IMG_4978.JPGThat’s is absolutely true and more so today. I came across a Puritan poem-prayer that articulates this longing a lot better than I could…

My dear Lord, I can but tell Thee that Thou knowest I long for nothing but Thyself, nothing but holiness, nothing but union with Thy will. Thou hast given me these desires, and thou alone canst give me the thing desired. My soul longs for communion with Thee, for mortification of indwelling corruption, especially spiritual pride.

How precious it is to have a tender sense and clear apprehension of the mystery of godliness, of true holiness! What a blessedness to be like Thee as much as it is possible for a creature to be like its creator! Lord, give me more of Thy likeness; enlarge my soul to contain fullness of holiness; engage me to live more for Thee. Help me to be less pleased with…

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On Christian Modesty


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I wasn’t raised to be modest. Growing up, I regularly wore short-shorts, tube tops and revealing swimsuits. So did the other girls that I went to church with. Those were modern times and old-fashioned rules just didn’t apply. Or so I was told.

I grew up, married and had children. I dressed my little girl in shorts and halter tops and swimsuits, nothing as revealing as my clothing had been but still more-so than I now believe is appropriate. As she approached her teen years I grew uncomfortable with the idea of her dressing as I had once dressed. And, by that time, I had two other young girls, impressionable and with ever-lasting souls and the way they would be dressed as they grew up was also weighing on my mind. I started researching this modesty issue.

No matter what we’re talking about (music, clothes, habits), there’s a danger of swinging too far to the right thinking that if we do more than is required, we’ll be even more pleasing to the Lord and that’s what I did when I became more aware of the need to be more modest. But God tells us in His Word that we are to be temperate, showing moderation in all that we do. In other words, neither going too far this way nor that. Growing up, my home tended towards being legalistic. Immodesty was allowed but many other things weren’t. They weren’t disallowed because God said it but simply because the church thought it. In other words, they were Pharisees, adding rules in order to keep rules. This was the tendency in my family as well as the church that I grew up in (considering the times, that is). As I studied what the Bible said rather than church doctrine, my beliefs changed. I changed. So how we dressed changed.

We have an obligation to the Lord to do all that we do for Him. He is God, we aren’t, and it is He that we are to obey. It’s oh-so easy to add rules upon God’s Word in order to make extra-sure that we are pleasing Him. On the other side of the coin, it’s so easy to excuse our behavior by saying “Everyone’s doing it” or “Times are different” or “That’s old-fashioned”. Neither is right. Neither pleases Him.

We must examine our heart. Why do we desire to dress (or do anything) as we do? What motivates us? Is it fear of man? Long-standing rules? The desire to abolish long-standing rules? Pride in our own spirituality? Or is it what Scripture refers to as “fear of the Lord”?

Proverbs 1: 7 says that fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. If we’re ever going to be pleasing to the Lord, we must start here. He is God and we are not. He has all power and, in the end, we have none–none to save ourselves, none to change the future, honestly none at all. God is Sovereign and we can’t always even open a bag of cereal without ripping the bag and spilling it. Wrapping our mind around Who God is goes a long way towards developing the right kind of fear of Him. That’s when we start developing wisdom. The wisdom that guides us as we delve into an understanding of modesty–or anything else.

So after running the gamut for a couple of years, going too far this way or that, I grew in my understanding of what it really means to be modest and was able to teach my daughters better than I had been taught. My oldest daughter is now grown and gone. My two younger daughters and I have long settled into an understanding of what it means for us to dress with modesty–and why. We still have rules but they are based in a desire to honor the Lord rather than in Pharisaical rules or modernism. My daughters are allowed to make many of their own choices as long as they are seeking to please the Lord. One daughter loves jeans. Another is pure vintage. Both love the Lord and His truth. Both are feminine. Both are modest. And both are pleasing the Lord with their desire to please Him because both of them know Him and fear Him. And that’s where a desire to be modest must begin.


A Mother’s Work

“What you do in your house is worth as much as if you did it up in heaven for our Lord God. We should accustom ourselves to think of our position and work as sacred and well-pleasing to God, not on account of the position and work, but on account of the word and faith from which the obedience and the work flow.” Martin Luther

Open Letter to Single Mamas


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Dear Single Mama,

I am so proud of you. You are doing such a difficult job with such wonderful grace. Instead of giving up your child for adoption, instead of having an abortion, instead of focusing on what you wanted rather than what she needed, you are here, loving her, pouring out your life for her, giving her your all.

Or maybe circumstances were such that you couldn’t. You couldn’t keep him but you still did your best. You didn’t destroy him, you let him live. Out of love for your child, you broke your own heart in order to give him up to another family who could love him and provide for him when you were sure you couldn’t. How amazingly unselfish. You are so worthy of praise!

O sweet Mama, you probably never expected to be in this situation. After all, what little girl dreams of growing up and becoming a single Mom? None that I know of, yet so many end up being just that. You might be like my Mom, running from a dangerous man, trying to make a new, safer, life for herself and her little girl. You might be like the daughter of my best friend who found herself in a difficult situation but who chose to rise to the occasion with every ounce of courage she had. You might be like a new friend of mine, a single Mama of two amazing children, working, homeschooling and raising them all alone after her ex- decided he wanted to be just that: her -ex. Whatever your situation is, I applaud you for handling it with grace. So many balk at being a mother yet you’ve willingly taken on one of the most difficult jobs in the whole world and you’ve done it alone.

Being a mother is a hard job but it’s also the world’s most rewarding job. To feel those little arms around your neck or those sweet lips kissing your cheek, there’s just nothing like it. You hold your child’s heart in your hand. You are the molder of their future. Your little guy needs you to be strong and faithful. You little girl needs you to be the kind of Mom she will want to grow up to be. Your little ones, and your big ones, need you to point them to Christ every single day. Just remember you must lean on Christ. Follow Him. Obey Him. Trust Him. When you are weak, He will be your Strength. When you are overwhelmed, He will be your Rock.

Being a Christian single Mom is all about Christ. It’s about seeking Him, believing Him, obeying Him and trusting Him to carry you through. By His strength, you can do it. You can run the race. One day your children will praise you.

One day, if you are faithful to Him, Christ will praise you also.

Meanwhile be on your knees in prayer. Stay in His Word. Pour out your needs to the Lord. Follow Him every day. Pour out your life to your children. Love them every day. You will be greatly rewarded.

With much love and admiration,

a grateful sister in Christ



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The Other Side of Modesty


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It’s that time of year when the Internet explodes with articles and videos intending to stem the tide of Christian girls headed to the beach or pool wearing “itsy bitsy teenie weenie yellow polka dot bikinis.”

Of course, many of these resources are valuable. Some of them even offer new insights into the modesty discussion — but even the best of them miss about half the population, and by “half-the-population” I mean the half that wears low-rise swim trunks to the pool. That’s right, I’m talking about men.

Now in previous years this omission might have been lost on me. But I’ve received enough emails from frustrated girls to make me take this double standard seriously: Christian guys expect girls to be modest, but hardly give a second though to their own modesty.

This is strange. Women may be shedding clothes this time of year, but so are men. Why are we only talking about female modesty? If modesty is important then it is important for all Christians. If it isn’t important for men, then why all the fuss about women? If it is important for women, why the silence about men?

Is it because guys can’t be immodest?

To read in full, please go to The Other Side of Modesty.

Places to Purchase Modest Swimwear Online


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Do you want to maintain your modesty and still go swimming? That’s important to me. Some Christians feel comfortable undressing in public as long as its for swimming but I just can’t believe that that is honoring to our Lord. God doesn’t want us to be legalistic and follow some man-made list of rules. He does, however, care about our hearts. He does care whether we love Him enough to want to honor Him with our choice of clothing. I’ve gathered a list here of some great links to help you find a modest swimsuit for yourself,  your husband, your sons or daughters. Some of the sites offer patterns and/or fabric to make your own swimwear. Some offer suits for guys, suits, some for gals, some for children. Some even offer maternity or nursing swimsuits.

My boys have always worn tee shirts in the pool or at the beach. We’ve found swim shirts at thrift stores and most guy swim shorts are decent anyway. It’s usually the girls and women you’ve got to be concerned about. I’ve only actually ordered a modest swimsuit for my girls twice: once through Amazon (a rash guard suit) and once from one of the places listed below. Both were several years ago and both suits have held up well during the years. Besides that, we’ve “put together” suits for my girls through a bit of creativity and careful shopping. Once we put together a cute outfit using leotards and sports shorts. If you don’t have a lot of money, you might take some time, say a prayer, and get creative. If you’ve got some money to spend, you might want to check out some of these sites, maybe buy one, maybe find a pattern and make your own. Whatever you do, I hope you have fun.

If you have some questions about modesty or about the history of our modern swimsuit, you might want to read Christian Modesty and the Public Undressing of America by Jeff Pollard. Sermons by him, including ones on modesty, can be found on SermonAudio.

My apologies but some links simply aren’t clickable. They do work, however. Just copy and paste. Thanks!


Modest Swimwear Patterns

Fresh Modesty (offers a 34 page swimwear e-book that teaches you how to design and sew modest swimwear, including options for maternity swimwear; also offers an e-book for sewing denim; good prices, worth looking into if you are a seamstress)

Patterns of Time offers old-fashioned (but cute) swimwear patterns from the Victorian/Edwardian/Titanic era with original instructions at these links: (for ladies),,; (for girls)

Simply Modest (girls and ladies swimwear)

Modesty Matters (offers pattern for swim dress)

Past Patterns (pattern for one-piece bathing suit, circa 1922)

Quick Stitches (offers modest swimsuit patter for ladies as well as other patterns)


Modest Swimwear

LeeLach Israeli Women Designers (some suits offer extensive cover; offers a variety of styles and colors for girls and women in a range of prices, sells clothing and head covers also)

UnderCover WaterWear (some suits offer extensive cover; girls and women’s sizes including plus sizes, swim dresses and tops and bottoms, swim hats, variety of colors, variety of prices)

MarSea Modest Swimwear (some suits offer extensive cover; offers a range of colors and styles in girls and women’s sizes, offers limited sale items, offers clothing for girls)

HydroChic (some suits offer extensive cover; offers girls and women’s sizes including plus sizes and maternity, accessories offers sales, variety of styles, colors and prices)

Princess Modest Swimwear (some suits offer extensive cover; offers mens and women’s styles, variety of colors, some sales, swim caps)

AquaModesta (some suits offer extensive cover; offers women’s and girls sizes, variety of styles, good prices)

WholesomeWear  (some suits offers extensive cover; offers girls and women’s sizes, variety of styles)

Creations by Savannah (offers girls, women’s and maternity swimwear in a variety of colors and styles)

Modest Swimwear & Activewear by: Cori (offers swimsuits, workout wear and snow ski wear

Meant to be Modest (very modest; offers complete swimsuits or separates, offers maternity suits suitable for nursing, accepts checks and paypal)

Dressing for His Glory (offers girls and women’s swimwear and clothing, cut to order, offers school uniforms, has some ready made clothes on sale at reduced prices)

Swim Modest! (offers boys and mens swim shirts, girls and women’s to size 20 one (sarong style) and two piece swimsuits in a range of colors, offers returns within 30 days if sanitary strip is still in place)

Simply Modest (offers ladies and girls swimsuits, maternity swimwear, custom made and ready made; offers swimsuit fabric and patterns, some sewing notions)

Stitchin’ Times (offers girls, women’s and nursing swimsuits in a variety of colors, limited style options, also offers slips, good prices)

Modestly Yours Swimwear (offers girls and sizes, made to order, variety of styles and colors, my two daughters favorite swimwear site)

Lilies of the Field (offers girls and ladies swimwear, offers head coverings, aprons and clothing, etc.)

KatieMellas (offers modest swimwear for girls and women, maternity skirts and music lessons)

AnnieBlueStudio (girls modest swimwear, good prices)

C WEAR (offers suits for men, women, plus sizes and children)


SolarTex Sun Gear (offers a wide variety of modest swimwear for men, women and children; offers special needs swimwear and accessories)




The Children


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Some would gather money
Along the path of life;
Some would gather roses,
And rest from worldly strife.

But I would gather children
From among the thorns of sin;
I would seek a golden curl,
And a freckled, toothless grin.

For money cannot enter
In that land of endless day;
And roses that are gathered
Soon will wilt along the way.

But, oh, the laughing children,
As I cross the sunset sea,
And the gates swing wide to heaven –
I can take them in with me.

-Author Unknown