Titus 2, 3-5, The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
I think we’ve gotten our focus wrong. We’ve looked at Titus 2, broken it down, made a list and checked it off. Much like making a Christmas list. Following a list, even one taken out of Scripture, without the full context of Scripture to explain it, makes it easy to become legalistic and lose the reason for the things we are teaching.
If Christ is not the reason we teach what we teach to our daughters, we aren’t teaching anything that’s worthwhile. Simply teaching them a step-by-step program, to cook, to sew, to clean house, to raise children and so on, might make them a good housekeeper or a good nanny but it won’t make them a godly woman or wife.
Scripture must interpret Scripture for it to be understood correctly. We can’t divorce one part of it from another, as is so often done in proof-texting, without losing the real meaning. Without context, without an overall knowledge of God’s Word, we can’t know Christ nor can we serve Him worthily.
I applaud women who want to raise their daughters to be keepers at home. I want that for my daughters too. In a world gone mad, we need a few more good women who want to marry, have children and be at home with them. But if they are doing it because “this is what I was taught” or “to please my husband” or “because I want to”, they may make an impact on their family and even on others but they won’t be making an impact for eternity.
In the end, the eternal value of being a godly woman, wife and mother far outweighs getting down any list. It’s good to know how to cook, clean, sew, garden, and raise children. It’s good to strive to honor our husbands, love our children and pass down domestic skills. I believe it honors God for women to use their talents to bless their families and others. I believe that it pleases God when a godly wife sees her home and her family as her first line of duty. But if in doing so or if in teaching our daughters such, we aren’t first and foremost teaching them the why behind it, we’ve failed and we’ve ensured their failure.
Jesus is the reason for everything. He’s the reason we live, breathe and have our being. He’s also the reason we are to teach our daughters holiness, to be keepers at home, to be pure and to love their families. If we don’t remember that, we have failed.